You Can’t Google How to Be a Man
There’s no chatbot for character. No app to turn a boy into a man who knows how to love a woman well, lead with humility, or sacrifice with joy.
Sure, AI might write a decent résumé. But it won’t tell a young man that standing on his own two feet means earning respect before expecting romance.
Actual Intelligence—real wisdom—used to come from a dad, a grandpa, a neighbor, or a coach. Somewhere along the way, we outsourced that to Google.
We’ve got sons raised on search bars instead of standards.
And that’s a problem.
Because no search result can teach:
The difference between a job and a plan
Why “we’ll figure it out” is not how you build a marriage
How to measure worth by responsibility, not applause
So here’s a hard question worth asking:
What have you handed off to technology that was meant to be passed down by real people?
If you’re a young man, let’s talk. Or if you’re raising one, or hoping to marry one—this conversation matters.
Because wisdom doesn’t come from Wi-Fi. And manhood? That’s never been downloadable.
You don't have to piece this together alone.
Planning requires assumptions. But the smartest assumptions are built on Actual Intelligence—on the kind of guidance that's lived, not googled.
Exercise your power while you have it.
Because whether you’re just starting your own journey—or shaping someone else’s—you’re standing at a crossroads.
Your Loved Ones are counting on you.
Watch the video. Read the article. Schedule a no-pressure call. You don’t have to figure this out alone.
HOMESCHOOLING: Haven or Havoc?
Your child's school years are precious and fleeting.
Now could be your best time to step up where your school is letting your child down. Let this series of myth-busting short chapters encourage you.
2 Major Mistakes
Which one will you make?
Which of these 2 retirement mistakes are you making right now? It's impossible to entirely avoid both mistakes.
You won't know for sure which mistake will work out better for you until it's too late.
How to choose?
Finding the Will
(Part 1)
Part 1: Have the will to arrange for a smooth transition when you’re no longer around to answer questions
Have the will to arrange for a smooth transition when you’re no longer around to answer questions (Part 1)
Ensuring your children or other Loved Ones can readily access your important papers when you die entails a sound process versus one or two conversations. You must overcome aversion to the subject of death, procrastination of anything that is long-term, and the tendency to assume things will be fine. Family dynamics can be sweet, spicy, or dicey.
Finding the Will
(Part 2)
Part 2: Getting Organized
While the internet permits convenient access to accounts, policies, and stored documents, it presents a plethora of password management problems. which too many people avoid by succumbing to password laziness, such as:
- re-using passwords for multiple logins, or
- use simple, easy to remember passwords, or
- writing them on sticky notes placed on their monitor or under their keyboard, or
- keeping them in a spreadsheet on their computer, or
- letting their browser remember passwords for them
Embrace Your Clarence
Is Clarence your future?
Golden insight from a golden retriever.
Post-Pandemic W.E.L.L.ness
Working, Earning, Learning, and Launching to Thrive
Where life drastically changed forever two years ago, everyone adjusted to the best of their abilities.
Here are a few of the key adjustments--"pandemic pivots"--that sustained some and prospered others.
Prenuptial Adulting
Equip Them for Happily Ever After
“Mom, Dad, we’re getting married!"
“Wonderful, congratulations! Here’s what you both need to do first.”
Equipping newlyweds with essentials of responsibility leaves plenty of life yet to be discovered on their own. Adults understand that love isn’t oogly feelings; it’s a hard choice. It’s putting your commitments and your money where your mouth is.
Many of the following steps also apply to one’s turning 18 years old. Becoming engaged adds urgency and a deadline.
Rethinking Competing Funds for College and Retirement
We live in a time of skyrocketing inflation topping decades of unbridled higher education costs.
Is the tension between funding your retirement and funding (at least partially) your children’s college education keeping you up at night?
You’re not alone.
Married? Is Your Endgame 100% or Just 50%?
Are you single? That other 50% could be whoever is most important to you.
Multiple unforgiving players factor into your retirement and estate plans (collectively your “endgame”). Household names include the Internal Revenue Service, the Social Security Administration, and the Center for Medicare and Medicaid Services. Key decisions with these players are nearly impossible to reverse. Plus, if you qualify for a pension, how you activate it is another irreversible decision.
Are you more of a planner than your spouse? It’s all too common for one spouse to blindly trust the planning spouse. Countless endgame “plans” were created by 50% of a couple:
