Your Relationships with People (Averting a Repeat Situation)
Your Relationships with People (Averting a Repeat Situation)
Women are natural caregivers, often finding themselves in the role of peacemaker, nurturer, and problem-solver within their relationships. But what happens when patterns keep repeating, and you find yourself in the same emotionally draining situations again and again?
The Cycle of Overgiving
It’s easy for women to fall into the trap of overgiving. Whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or family dynamics, many women feel the pressure to be everything to everyone. You might find yourself constantly saying yes, fixing problems, and putting your own needs aside. The result? You’re left emotionally and physically exhausted, while others continue to expect more.
Recognizing the Pattern
One of the first steps to breaking the cycle is recognizing that it exists. Have you ever thought, “Why does this keep happening to me?” or “Why do I always end up being the one who fixes things?” This is a clear sign that a pattern of overgiving or neglecting your own needs may be at play.
When you’re caught in this cycle, it can feel like you’re stuck in a loop. The good news is that by identifying the pattern, you’ve already taken the first step toward change.
“Practice saying No”
Breaking the Cycle: Reclaiming Your Power
To stop this pattern from repeating, it’s crucial to set boundaries. Here’s how to start:
Assess Your Relationships: Look at the relationships in your life. Are there certain people or situations that drain you more than uplift you? A harsh but memorable term is “energy vampire.” Recognizing the EVs in your life can help you create healthier boundaries.
Practice Saying No: This can be tough, especially if you’re used to always being the one who says yes. Saying no could be difficult in the moment, but saying yes to the wrong things snowballs into an avalanche of difficulties.
Prioritize Self-Care: Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Carve out time for activities that recharge and bring you joy, whether that’s reading, exercising, or simply resting.
Why It Matters
When you break the cycle, you’re not just protecting yourself—you’re improving your relationships too. Healthy relationships are built on balance, where both parties give and take equally. By setting boundaries and taking care of yourself, you model a healthier dynamic for others, and everyone benefits.
You Have the Power to Change
You don’t have to keep reliving the same situations. By recognizing the patterns, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your own needs, you can avert a repeat situation and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Conclusion:
If you’re ready to break free from over giving and build healthier relationships, I’m here to help. Schedule a phone call today, and together we can explore strategies to empower you, set boundaries, and reclaim control of your life. Don’t wait—your well-being and relationships depend on it. Click here to schedule your free consultation and start your journey toward a more balanced and fulfilling life.
You have the power to be able to Give Your Love, Keep Your Life™.
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Your child's school years are precious and fleeting.
Now could be your best time to step up where your school is letting your child down. Let this series of myth-busting short chapters encourage you.
2 Major Mistakes
Which one will you make?
Which of these 2 retirement mistakes are you making right now? It's impossible to entirely avoid both mistakes.
You won't know for sure which mistake will work out better for you until it's too late.
How to choose?
Finding the Will
(Part 1)
Part 1: Have the will to arrange for a smooth transition when you’re no longer around to answer questions
Have the will to arrange for a smooth transition when you’re no longer around to answer questions (Part 1)
Ensuring your children or other Loved Ones can readily access your important papers when you die entails a sound process versus one or two conversations. You must overcome aversion to the subject of death, procrastination of anything that is long-term, and the tendency to assume things will be fine. Family dynamics can be sweet, spicy, or dicey.
Finding the Will
(Part 2)
Part 2: Getting Organized
While the internet permits convenient access to accounts, policies, and stored documents, it presents a plethora of password management problems. which too many people avoid by succumbing to password laziness, such as:
- re-using passwords for multiple logins, or
- use simple, easy to remember passwords, or
- writing them on sticky notes placed on their monitor or under their keyboard, or
- keeping them in a spreadsheet on their computer, or
- letting their browser remember passwords for them
Embrace Your Clarence
Is Clarence your future?
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Post-Pandemic W.E.L.L.ness
Working, Earning, Learning, and Launching to Thrive
Where life drastically changed forever two years ago, everyone adjusted to the best of their abilities.
Here are a few of the key adjustments--"pandemic pivots"--that sustained some and prospered others.
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Equip Them for Happily Ever After
“Mom, Dad, we’re getting married!"
“Wonderful, congratulations! Here’s what you both need to do first.”
Equipping newlyweds with essentials of responsibility leaves plenty of life yet to be discovered on their own. Adults understand that love isn’t oogly feelings; it’s a hard choice. It’s putting your commitments and your money where your mouth is.
Many of the following steps also apply to one’s turning 18 years old. Becoming engaged adds urgency and a deadline.
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We live in a time of skyrocketing inflation topping decades of unbridled higher education costs.
Is the tension between funding your retirement and funding (at least partially) your children’s college education keeping you up at night?
You’re not alone.
Married? Is Your Endgame 100% or Just 50%?
Are you single? That other 50% could be whoever is most important to you.
Multiple unforgiving players factor into your retirement and estate plans (collectively your “endgame”). Household names include the Internal Revenue Service, the Social Security Administration, and the Center for Medicare and Medicaid Services. Key decisions with these players are nearly impossible to reverse. Plus, if you qualify for a pension, how you activate it is another irreversible decision.
Are you more of a planner than your spouse? It’s all too common for one spouse to blindly trust the planning spouse. Countless endgame “plans” were created by 50% of a couple:
